To Whome It May Concern, Here's Closure Served For You

In any downside of a relationship, either party who has been left would always want closure. No matter the situation of the break-up: ugly or mutually agreed on, closure is always at stake. There are some that demand an explanation, having the one-track mind to know and probably even making it their mission in life to know what went wrong or to blame who caused the fall into the relationship. A third party? Falling out of love? How about this: it just really didn't work out. No matter how long you've been together, or how far into the relationship you've been in- it will always be a matter of choice to stick it out or work it out even. But you have to admit, even choice has a shelf-life to those that know they have truly and brutally thought and contemplated on and even painstakingly debated with reason and emotion to end the relationship or continue on. So you've chosen the first, which is to end it.

Take it as a chance, or even think of it as re-birth for yourself. It's time to learn how to live your life and discover yourself once again. It brings out the resiliency that you have never imagined that was in you. Or, it could bring out the coward in you if you choose to make the situation eat you up. You can blame the whole ugly situation on some one else, or directly to the one that you lost. But really, at the end of the day- the relationship was between the two of you. Did you ever stop and think and even look beyond yourself that maybe, just maybe you were part of the problem since the whole relationship consists of two people. If I were in your shoes, I would look into myself. Of course I could hate the whole world, be mad, and probably have an insane streak since I lost the love of my life. Reality bites, and life has still to be lived out since you are still alive. Think of it this way, it was way better now than later on down the road. Where your marriage would have been in shambles and you would have eventually broken your vow with God.

I believe in having the right person come in the right time according to God. I now fully understand what my elders have said time and time again: Don't look for love, it will look for you. If you are truly worth it to the man- he will find ways and means to get to know you, woo you and be with you. A man will always be the hunter and the woman will always be the game. I'm sure, your time will come. Once in my life, I thought a certain guy was the one for me and I came to deciding that he wasn't. We weren't going to work. I couldn't stomach certain things that I knew either I just had to accept every bit of him, and stay miserable forever which felt like I was settling just because we were together for a certain amount of time. I had to be true to myself, so I chose to end it. There's more to life, believe me. So much have gone through hear ache. Maybe it's your time to go through it, to finally and firmly put your faith and trust in your higher power who honestly is the best person to be in a relationship with. Closure is really within your reach, no matter how many years or effort you put into finding an answer that you want, you might never even get. You can find it in you. Close the chapter now, and write a new one.

I wish you all the best. I wish you well even. Life is exciting and go out there and live it. God Bless you always.